Unsure on what to do with my husbands porn addiction...

Hello all, I am new to this site. I stumbled upon it
while researching for an advice blog/forum for wives whose husbands are
addicted to porn. My situation stems back to the mid 90's for my husband
when porn first came about and was legal in the work place. Where he
worked at the time was a company that had employees who would watch what
people "watched" on their personal computers. So, a lot of men looked
at porn and this caused a trickle down effect aside from the simple
Playboy Mag, etc. 

I came across my husbands addiction after
roughly 6 years of marriage. Our second son was born and about a year
and a half. I was shocked when I found his collection on the computer as
he left it wide open for anyone to see. I had my older son with me as
we were looking for a game for him to play. I was pissed, confused, sad,
all the emotions at the beginning of discovery one feels. We went to
counseling and the therapist was basically useless. Now, jumping ahead a
year or two, yet again I discovered he did not get rid of his
collection. Caught! It's the I love you, I want to make love to my wife,
yadyada. I am petite, attractive, fit, and I am after mid 40's under
50. Still am told I look like I am in my 30's. I told him, one more time
and our marriage is over. I will not live my life or my marriage with
this porn crap. Not only is it the porn, it is the age of the girls he
is looking at. Teens. It makes me want to vomit. My older son will be
13  very soon. The thought of him bringing girls (girlfriends) over when
he becomes more interested and dating fears me in what my husband may
think looking at them. I just noticed the other day by accident needing
to use his computer to scan a document. Low and behold, the crap was
still there. Recently downloaded from an old hard drive. He never did
get rid of all the hard drives, or the "one". Needless to say, I am on
the verge (hence my name) on ending the marriage. Not now, but at some
point. I am in my 3rd Semester of college, aside from Summer classes the
past two Summers, and need to focus on school in order to graduate. I
grew up in a divorced family and it can do damage to the children,
myself included. So, it would be a while. Clearly, he has a problem and
our marriage is not worth saving to him. We just got done with adding on
to our home and have/had so many goals. I just don't know what to do.
Like I said, it if were "women" he was looking at then I would say get
help or we are threw. 13-17 year olds....uh...no. (sigh) >:(

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