help me

I need someone who can help me hold on and not fall back into the black hole of my addiction
I'm sober for 3 days
but the voice of my addiction is already back
I have been sober before for more than 2 years but I don't know how for a year I started again I fight since and the longest duration that I hold is 1 month
i hope i will find someone here to talk with and who can help me
thank you
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  • @ineedbro... Welcome to the community, thanks for sharing with us, and congratulations on your 3 days of sobriety. I'm proud of you for picking yourself up and getting back on the right path again.

    I don't have any direct experience with porn addiction, but there are folks here who do. I hope some of them will weigh in so you can chat with them and get some insight from them. In the meantime, take things a day at a time, or even an hour or minute at a time if you have to. Whatever it takes to stay on track.

    We're here to help and support you however we can. 
  • @DeanD ;
    thanks for the post your words warms the heart  it comforts and boots morale.

    sorry if my english is bad 
  • @ineedbro

    Hey there. Thank you for sharing. I think many of us can certainly relate with you on the fact that the disease of addiction can cause us a lot of grief. Good news is that you have been able to stay away from porn for a long period of time. To what do you attribute that success to? What was going on your life that helped you refrain from looking at it? What's going on in your life recently that you're drawn to it? Are you struggling with a lot more anxiety or stress? Or has it just become habitual?

    I am a firm believer that when we can't rid ourselves of an addiction and we really given it a good try, it's time to reach out for help. This is one reason why I know you're here at the Forum. We can certainly encourage you and be here to support you on your journey. However, I want to state up front that if you continue on and even this forum isn't helping, consider reaching out for professional help. Addiction is a disease of the brain, and your brain has become addicted to those images and the feelings associated with them. I am not an expert in this category, but I do know that there is treatment for addiction. 

    It helps me to keep recovery on my mind everyday. To just Journey when it comes to personal and Spiritual Development. I want to grow, and I know that if I'm engaging in some addictive activity, that I'm stunting my growth. That i will experienced some sort of emotional pain, and I don't want to experience any more emotional pain. Not to say that I don't ever have off days, because I do. But I lived in a cesspool of negative emotions when addiction was ruling my life, and I just don't want to live that way anymore. So I bust my butt and do something everyday that keeps my mind focused on recovery and healthy coping mechanisms. Reading, watching YouTube videos, studying the disease of addiction, helping others on the Forum, prayer, meditation, and so on. I think most of us can agree that it takes a decent amount of effort and Recovery in order to stay sober and clean.

    Take some time to read around the forum, and I encourage you to come on here every day and just get to know us. We are a great group of people who are simply journeying with each other encouraging the best we can. Loving unconditionally, never judging no matter how many times someone falls off the wagon. We're not here to judge, we're here to support and encourage one another , and dust each other off if we do fall. 

    Kudos to three days. Just one day at a time. Just for today, commit to staying sober .
  • @dominica
    could you guide me ? I do not know too well this site
    you told me to come and to learn to know members of the group
    don't know where to go really  to discuss
    and I do not know how to start
    I managed to stay sober for 5 days
    but the voices of the beast are always there and want to make me forget that if I fall again I will still suffer and that its will not help me realize what I wish
    there are also images that haunt me spirit

  • @ineedbro  
    Hey there. Thanks for reaching out again. I'm glad that you made it 5 days. As far as navigating this site, you can start new discussions by hitting the new discussion tab. You can also just begin reading other people's posts and commenting as you want. One thing is for sure, you are not alone in your decision to overcome your addiction . There are many here who are actively overcoming an addiction One Day at a Time.

    There are various options in dealing with any addiction. It's going to be up to you to see what path or what paths work for you. For me, when I couldn't afford a therapist, I used the free resources online like articles and YouTube videos on the topic. The are many YouTube videos that will encourage you in your recovery. If you have the money to attend counseling or insurance for it, I think you would benefit. I know counseling helped me out a lot, and I'd go back anytime if I really needed to.

    It's going to take some time to retrain your brain. Your brain has made connections between pleasure and pornography. Wanting to feel pleasure is not a bad thing. We all want to feel pleasure. But it can become a problem when we become addicted to something that we don't want to be addicted to in order to feel that pleasure. Porn is just like any drug, and as you know , can be quite addictive. But there is hope for recovery, and you are on that path Now.

    Here's just a couple videos that I've seen on YouTube for. Take some time each day to educate yourself on addiction. Maybe reach out to someone who has overcome a porn addiction . Check out those websites online that are dedicated to helping men and women overcome it. 

    Little efforts made day by day will accumulate....and make you stronger....and the more time you can stay away from porn, the more your brain will "forget" those associations...

    We are rooting for you, and are glad you are here.

  • @ineedbro... How are you doing, my friend? When you have time, please check in with us and let us know. We really care about you.
  • Hi @DeanD ;
    sorry to not having giving news
    I'm sober for 11 days
    today is the 12th day it is a day that started a little hard contrary to the previous days
    I try to hold on
    I am glad to find your message its give of strength
  • Congrats on Day 12, @ineedbro! I'm sorry it started a little tougher than the others, but I know you can get through it. Take things an hour at at a time. Or even a minute at a time if you have to. Whatever it takes, my brother. 

    We're here for you! Always remember that!!

    Go forward, be brave, and keep the faith!
  • @ineedabro  That's great you have 12 days clean! Thank you for the update! I'm sure some days are tougher than others, but you are doing it! It really helps me when I play the tape through. This means that before I do whatever it is I don't want to be doing, I Envision the end result of doing that behavior. Let's say it's drinking. I don't really want to drink, yet sometimes I'm tempted. But it helps when I play the tape through and I think about how I will feel after I've had two or three drinks. I'll feel tired , and out of whack, and if I drink more than that I'll feel yuck the next day. I'll be disappointed in myself, knowing that I can have a good time without having a few drinks. When I play the tape through, it helps me not to do it. It also helps me to remember that when I engage in an addictive behavior, it stunts my personal and spiritual growth. And I want to grow, and I want to experience in the most peace and joy I can while I'm on this planet. Engaging in addictive or unhealthy habits won't lead me there. Hope this helps in some way and know that we're here for you anytime.
  • It's not a failure, relapse is normal. I relapsed recently two after two years of sobriety. get back in control. Just because you fell down today doesn't mean that you can't get up and walk forward tomorrow.

  • @zozzie I'm very angry to have relapsed
    but I don't know why I feel stronger and I am sure that this time I will succeed
  • @ineedbro... Please watch this video I made a while back. 

  • I remember watching this a couple months ago, @Dean. It's good to watch it again as today is 109 days for me without Tramodol or opiods of any kind. Thanks for the  "extra strength" good vibes, too, for my upcoming dental work...can you say procrastenate??
  • Anger with yourself is something you gotta look into, mate. Maybe a visit to a therapist or counsellor of some kind can help deal with that. It's not worth beating yourself up about, and it won't help you move forward.... just focus on the future, tonight, tomorrow night, the weekend, christmas... one step at a time. You know you can do it, and so do we.
  • @Goodtr8s... Yay for 109 days! I'm hoping today is Day 112! And you are very welcome for the extra strength good vibes. More are coming your way!
  • @ineedbro... I agree with @zozzie. Being angry with yourself is a definite obstacle to progress. Think about seeing a therapist. They can work wonders. I know, because my therapist helped me sooooo much.
  • @DeanD ; hi bro thank you for your video it help me 
    @dominica thank you too 
    after my last relapse I realized that porn it's a real shit the desire to watch is much weaker and rarer 
    I feel stroger
    I'm sober :) thanks for your help 

  • Glad the video helped you, @ineedbro. And I'm proud of the progress you're making! 
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