If your loved one is an addict

Two things to watch out for if you are a loved one of an addict or an alcoholic. One is to watch out for the temptation to feel like addiction is your fault. Whether your loved one is your partner, your child, or your parent or friend, their addiction is not your fault. Each person is responsible for his or her attitudes and behaviors. So if you're feeling guilty or stressed out thinking that somehow it's your fault, I encourage you to let that go.

The next thing to watch out for if your loved one is an addict or an alcoholic is the temptation to take things personally. Maybe your loved one has promised stop drinking or drugging but there they go again drinking or using again. Maybe they've told you a hundred lies, and while that does hurt, you will be practicing self-care if you do not take their words personal. This does not mean that you put up with any kind of abuse. The lies that addicts tell reveal something about them, not you.

It's challenging to be with an addict or an alcoholic. There are a lot of self-care tips that you as their loved one can implement to make your life better. Continue to learn about addiction, as well as self-care and self-love, and know that you’re not alone in your struggle.
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  • What Al-Anon and Nar-Anon teach us about a loved one's addiction is so true:

    "You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it."

    This is why you have to focus on the one person you can control: YOU.
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