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Relapse is NOT Failure!Ask any addict, past or present, what the best way to beat a drug addiction is, and you will most likely be told a different answer from each.
The truth is every addict is different; their stories all a little different. Every single recovery will be a unique, personal journey. What worked amazingly for one individual may send the next guy running back to their dealer.
Part of every addict’s journey to a new life is trial and error, aka relapse. Decide on a method you think may work for you and just work it. Whether it’s cold turkey, medication, moving away, or any of the countless other options, just choose one and do it!
Spend every day, every hour, every minute consciously fighting anything that tries to sabotage your recovery. Ignore the voices that haunt your mind, and the withdrawals that may torture your body.
Always remember the pain will not last forever, no matter how hard you try to convince yourself otherwise, the pain will end someday! Honestly, the pain of withdrawals becomes a pretty strong deterrent from relapsing; never wanting to go through that torture again is a strong reason to just say no!
If you do find yourself using again; don’t give up, rather give yourself a pat on the back, you are just like everybody else that has successfully beat their addiction. Early recovery is filled with failure, but as long as you learn from it, and don’t lose the desire to beat your addiction, you will get there.
Take some time to figure out what caused you to relapse, what made you go back to using. Spend time thinking about what you could of done differently; maybe you hung out with someone that still was actively using and now know that relationship has to end.
I spent 6 years trying to quit, 6 years fighting a battle in my mind, 6 years trying different recovery methods. During this time I collected multiple 30 day chips from Narcotics Anonymous, but would always find myself back at my dealer.
I may have relapsed, but I never gave up the inner desire for my life back. I realized every relapse was one step closer to a lifetime of being happy, healthy, and clean.
Realize that in order to relapse you must have been trying to stop, and that honestly is the biggest step in this battle.
Don’t give up hope after experiencing a relapse. Remind yourself that we all have a certain number of relapses; a certain number of battles to struggle through before you get your life back.
A relapse is part of the process, it is NOT failure. Figure out your next step, and work towards it. As long as that desire for living life, for feeling happiness, and love again still exists; as long as you have the desire to conquer your addiction buried somewhere inside of you then you have not failed. You have actually moved one step closer to beating this.
Learn from each relapse, whether it is a person you can no longer associate with, or a prescribed medication that you ended up abusing and can no longer take. As long as you take something away from it then you are moving forward towards recovery.
Even if your most recent relapse sends you to the lowest rock bottom that you have ever experienced, you have not failed. Realize you were sick and tired of this life way before things ever got this bad. Experiencing things worse than they ever have been may be what you need to finally say enough is enough; that you are truly sick and tired of being sick and tired, finally able to say I truly am done.
We all need something to fight for. Figure out what your personal reason to fight is. Do it for yourself, do it for your family, do it for your kids, just do it.
Figure out a plan for your next attempt at sobriety; NA, Detox, Out of State Rehab, Cold Turkey, anything, and start today. Tomorrow is never guaranteed in the world of addiction. Prepare yourself mentally, take some ideas from this site, and fight with all you have.
If you find yourself back at square one, just roll up your sleeves, regroup, and start again. It is a cycle:
Deciding Enough is Enough
Go through a period of sobriety (whether one hour or a year+)
Just remember each cycle is a learning experience. Figure out what worked, and what failed. Take note of the things you can no longer do or expose yourself to. Each cycle is one relapse closer to a lifetime of sobriety.
This will be one of the hardest things you ever go through. People will tell you what you are trying will never work, or that you should do this or that, or someone they know got worse because they tried something. People will tell you all kinds of things; just let them say what they have to say.
Remember this is your personal war, and there will be many battles along the way to victory. You will win some, and you will also face defeat. People close to you may consider you a failure, people may give up on you, but as long as you don’t give up on yourself then you are one step closer to beating this.
Relapse is not a death senetence, it is a learning process for an individual that has decided they want out of this so called life they are living. Learn from everything, don’t give up, and just know that the next time you decide to stop; the next time you buckle up and decide to give it your all; the next time you have had enough of this rock bottom life, the next time may be the last time you ever have to decide to quit again.
I never knew my last day using was really going to be my last day on drugs. AFter years of relapses, and not giving up on myself I finally won. You are just one decision away from joining me, one decidsion away from living the life you dream of, a life you have spent years telling yourself will never exist again for you…
You are one decision away from a life filled with happiness, love, emotion, family, trust, and all the other amazing things being clean and sober will bless you with.
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