Weekend motivation!! Woot woot!!

dominica

@blueorchid awesome that you started the weekend thread! thanks!

so glad you're feeling good. you should!! i can feel so much grace and gratitude coming from you. it's like dripping off you!! (like this cloud of goodness is raining grace over you!)

yes, wishing everyone a great weekend! i'm grateful to be alive and experiencing life on this planet. all sorts of experiences. my prayer is that i can be less self-consumed and more aware of the bigger picture, and my higher power's purpose for life...

leaving ya with a quote to ponder:

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start all over again.”

― Eric Roth, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button Screenplay

JoshuaShea

In the last two weeks, I've spent $2,400 on the dog I got about a year ago. First she broke her leg, the vet didn't notice, it got worse, back to the vet, he finally x-rayed and put on a cast, then a few days later, she ripped off the cast, so I had to go to the emergency vet because it was night time. More x-rays, it wasn't healing right, so I had to take her the next day to the orthopedic vet, and he put a titanium plate in her leg. She came home yesterday, but was chewing at the cast within an hour, so I had to go buy her one of those cones.
My daughter and wife both pointed out to me than 6 or 7 years ago, I would have been arguing to put the dog down, probably at the point she had to go to the emergency vet and we approached the $1,000 mark. Now, I just hand over my credit card without blinking.
I can't specifically tie that to not being addicted to alcohol or porn anymore, but I think it shows the ancillary effects of all of the therapy, and I'm glad I'm this way now.

SalTheGalFromCal

Hey @JoshuaShea, sorry your dog is having so much trouble. Glad it’s fixable and she’s on the mend. The cones! They’re the worst.
Sorry for your wallet too. I take it back, cones aren’t the worst. Money is. ESP when a wee bit more would make things smoother. But, that never ends. My car decided to blow a gasket and leak all of its oil 2 days ago, on the way home after a perfect day at the zoo with my kindergartener’s class. Those blind siding couple grand here couple grand there happenings are...hmmmm....Uncle. Best to just leave that sentence at that.
I hear you on the progress. There may be more attribution to the lack of previous devices than you think. There’s not been any official therapy in our house, but overall compassion, empathy, and acceptance are markedly on the rise minus the booze.
I’m glad too.
And glad my car didn’t catch on fire! I didn’t even know I was supposed to be afraid of that. Which makes me sound really dumb, but hey, when the message on the dash says stop engine now, I do what I’m told and call home. There was no smoke; sometimes obliviousness is good! Helps a person handle situations like a champ.
Hope your dog is comfortable!

JoshuaShea

Thanks @SalTheGalFromCal I know the head gasket nightmare. In my early 20s, I killed two cars in one year with head gasket issues. And if you look up the damn things online, they're not even that complex, it's just getting to them takes major surgery.
The dog is as comfortable as she can be, but you'd never know. I wish they gave us a sedative to slow her down. They said she wouldn't know anything was wrong once the plate was put in and I believe it. They actually resplinted it even though that's not always necessary just to mentally tell the dog something was still up with that leg.

blueorchid

@dominica Benjamin Button was a neat story & that is a good quote.
@JoshuaShea that’s quite the expense. Sorry that happened however I think it’s great that your family noticed how you have changed and your approach being different now than it was back then. Odd they didn’t give you anything to settle her. Hopefully she heals quickly. When I was a kid & our dog got his balls snipped, the first night he was so distraught I stayed up with him all night. I kept him calm and he was ok after that. I was 7 years old.

@SalTheGalFromCal crazy about your car but thankfully it didn’t catch fire for sure. You don’t sound dumb at all. Unless you have experienced it or been told by someone that happens, how are you to know? I know it’s possibility, but that’s because I have my first years Auto Mechanics... some women don’t even know how to check their oil levels or add washer fluid. Not that I judge but it’s just how things are... I think you are a champ!

dominica

@JoshuaShea hope your dog gets better soon! also, just my view, but i view money as an energy.... allow it to flow in nicely and allow it to flow out nicely... (being wise and frugal, of course) makes life more peaceful. ok, ok, i do like the law of attraction teachings..

happy sunday!

blueorchid

Yes, @dominica the mindset of « abundance » instead of « lack » is very important!

DeanD

@JoshuaShea and @SalTheGalFromCal... Pets and cars. They sure can suck the money out of us sometimes, can't they!

@blueorchid... Glad you're feeling so good and hope your weekend was awesome!

@dominica... I've never seen that movie. Might have to check it out.

Love you all so much!

blueorchid

Whether you are on Day 1, Day 30 or Day 5500, happy May long weekend! Be strong and stay clean/sober. If you find the urge is overwhelming, reach out for support (Family, friends. Online meetings, in person meeting, and of course on here. One day at a time is all it takes to stay clean/sober.
If you relapse , it doesn’t matter! You get back at it and start Day 1 again. Having 99 Day 1s is better than 0 Day 1s. It’s important to forgive if you do slip up because it’s just a part of the process. What matters is that you continue on your path to recovery and don’t let a minor setback be one of your excuses to use.
Always remember, there’s so much love & support on here so even if you need to vent, please do! It has helped me when I’ve struggled. I’m not professing to be perfect & neither are you, but we are perfectly imperfect

SalTheGalFromCal

@blueorchid, this is Canada’s long weekend? Ours is next weekend. I hope you’re having a good one!

And yes, @DeanD, cars and pets! Life—it’s all good.

Hope ya’ll are having a good Sunday. Hulk’s teaching the boys how to play Risk. ❤️

dominica

@SalTheGalFromCal hey there! i just asked about you and Hulk on a different thread.... we must be on the same wavelength right now!

great the boys are learning how to play Risk. (i never learned that game lol)

sounds like your weekend is going well.... mine too! i'm back in town after a week away... vacay is great, but you ever need one when you get home from vacay? haha. it wasn't the lounge-at-the-beach type.... but always great to get home in the comforts of "home".

@blueorchid sending you big hugs!! glad you are enjoying your weekend!! and yes, we are all a beautiful type of mess.... perfectly imperfect!

blueorchid

@SalTheGalFromCal I loved Risk when I was a kid! Yes our May long is the Monday before Queen Victoria’s bday (aka Victoria Day).

SalTheGalFromCal

Hey @dominica, yes, we must have been on the same wavelength! Glad you had a good time off, and yes, we need a vacation to catch up from vacation! We’re heading out next week for a trip with the kids, and then the day after we get home, I leave for a work trip and Hulk starts summer classes. It’s going to get nutso around here. But, it’s good to keep busy. For all reasons. Hope you have a good Monday!

dominica

@SalTheGalFromCal yes, sounds busy your way for sure! all good things, so yay for that!! hope you enjoy your Monday too!

blueorchid

Hi @SalTheGalFromCal & @HulkZmash hope your vacation went well! Thinking of you both