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    Making progress with my husband's porn addiction

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    When I first joined this site, I was a mess. I am an older woman, newly married, and found evidence of my husband's porn addiction. I was scared and lost and terrified. The people here helped me, a lot. It was finally a place I could talk about it.

    The first few times he admitted it, I threw fits and yelled and one time told him I hated him. I remember him saying, "Not as much as I hate myself."

    I didn't think I would survive it, but I did. I didn't want to leave him, and I couldn't let him face this demon alone. I learned about addiction and came at it from a different perspective. I received great advice from many of the regulars who support us here. @JoshuaShea recommended we find a Sex Addicts Anonymous group. I didn't think my husband would even consider it. I thought he would be too embarrassed to ever walk through the door. I was wrong. I found information on a group that met at a church close to our home and he immediately agreed to go. He went to his first meeting on Monday. I told him he didn't have to talk to me about it, that this was for him and I wouldn't press him about it. When he came home, he told me all about it. He shared his story with the group and now has a temporary sponsor who sat in the car with him after the meeting and they talked for an hour. He brought home a book, the white book, all about SAA. I have devoured the book. From the first page it gave me all the information I so desperately wanted to know about this addiction. It has been a life saver for me. It explains so much. I needed to understand this illness. I am going to get my own copy

    If your husband/wife will agree to go to an SAA meeting, do it immediately. Mine was so scared and so embarrassed ... but he walked through those doors and he did it. He said they were so welcoming and accepting and I know this is exactly what he/we needed.

    I am so proud of him I could bust.

    Thank you all for your support. I know it's not going to be easy, but we are at the beginning of the road to recovery. I didn't have much hope before this. Now I do.

    Sending love and prayers to all of those who are in that horrible, hopeless place I was ... not long ago.

    There is hope. Don't give up.
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