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Dealing with pushy people....
I was reading today about dealing with pushy people who just don't know how to respect boundaries. I learned about a tool called the Broken Record.
Basically what you do is repeat your refusal continually regardless of what the pushy person is saying or doing. Regardless of the manipulation. You don't get distracted from your main objective, which is to say no.
It mentions trying to stay calm and as you focus on this goal.
For example, let's say your neighbor comes over and says, "Hey there! There's this big shindig down at Hoffman's Club Saturday night. Do you want to go with me?"
But you don't want to. So you say, "No, thank you. I'm not really interested in that."
And then he says, "Are you sure? It's going to be awesome! So and so band is playing!"
So you say,
I'm sure you'll have a good time, but "No, thank you. I'm not really interested in that."
"But haven't you been saying he wanted to get out and try new things?"
"That's true. I do you want to get out and try new things, but "No, thank you. I'm not really interested in that."
Notice how it's repetitive it is.... LIke a Broken Record. You can practice various ways to say no to people, and feel free to practice them over and over.
I just thought this was a pretty good tool so I thought I'd share it with ya'll.-
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