I've become the object of addiction/obsession

androl

I'm sure you already know what you need to do, judging by what you've written. If you've had all these red flags already and he is being obsessive with you, listen to what your gut instincts tell you - they are usually right. Also, bear in mind that being obsessive and being controlling are also forms of abuse with serious long-term implications.

dominica

@alianna thank you for sharing. i remember you talking about this. i'm glad that you are having a conversation with him. be strong and set those boundaries well. it's ok to cut all contact for sure.....sounds like he cannot keep himself from obsessing. you are doing the right thing in addressing this in such a mature way.

if he continues to harass you, you may need to think about further action....

sending you big hug!

missbishi

I remember your previous thread too. Although I'm really sorry that the situation worsened, I'm delighted to read that you are taking control of the situation. 

You never know, this might end up being a turning point and prompt him to get the help he so obviously needs. So whatever you do, don't feel guilty. It's likely that you are, in fact, doing this guy a favor. 

winniethepooh

You are doing the right thing! I hope he gets the message in Monday. If that fails, I think you need to have some protection from him, maybe a restraining order. And also, always bring something to protect yourself, even pepper spray or something pointy. We women are always at the higher risk of danger these days.

nergaahl

You're doing the right thing by cutting the contact with him. Better safe than sorry, people like this are really dangerous and can make you feel sad and bad about the situation. It's good that friends support you with this, having someone to talk to and understand you is important during these times. Best luck with it!