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Masturbating addiction

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 I've always watched porn and masterbated for as long as I could remember and I think it's because I was lonely growing up. It got to a point where I would do it twice a day and I couldn't continue doing what I was doing unless I did it and that's when I realised things were getting bad. I enjoy the feeling at the time but afterwards I always feel like shit.  I feel so down and just angry at myself. I did grow up in religious household and I feel like that's one part to why I feel this guilt but it's not the whole reason. I always feel this constantly battle with myself about willpower and strength and I think when I give in to masterbate I get angry at myself for not being strong enough to fight it and I always regret it the second I do it but it's the release of stress and everything in that breif second that I crave. There are a lot debates on the Internet to what excessive masturbation can lead to but I feel like with me it affects how I am socially with others and my happiness.  I have a girlfriend and we have sex quite regularly but that's not stopping me from doing it. When I say it affects me socially I mean it in a way which causes me to be more introverted and less happy and I know if I were to stop, things were to get better.  So for the question...  What do suggest I do to stop it completely and make sure I never do it again?

Please don't give answers saying "it's good for you" and stuff like that because I wouldn't be asking this if It wasn't an issue for me.  
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    zozziezozzie
    Honestly, you have to get to the real root of why you do it. Not the ole "scratch the surface" on why you think you do it, but why you actually really get the impulse.  what are you relieving when you do it? Stress?? Why are you stressed? Something is really bothing you, and you keep it pent up inside, and until you find out what that is, and take care of it, this, and other  addictions will continue to rule your life.
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    dominicadominica
    @jimjom888 hello and welcome. thanks for sharing.  this is not my area of expertise, but I do know addiction of any sort has some common characteristics. your brain gets addicted to that dopamine surge...and it screams for more. have you considered seeing an addiction specialist? this may help you get to the root and get some effective tools to battle it.  maybe watch some youtube videos on the topic too, as I find that learning bout addiction helps me...

    and what if when you are tempted, you think about the end result...sure, it will feel good momentarily, but then ya feel like shit. tell your mind to shut up when it starts thinking, oh, this will be great. you will feel so good and be stress free after...it's bullshit. tell it to shush...and watch something that empowers you.

    it may take some time and it will take some effort and discipline for sure....don't beat yourself up about this though...you're a great guy...and you can get through this! 
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