replacing one addiction with the next

I wanted to write a little update of how I have been doing in sobriety. Over the past year, I had discovered that my trigger to doing drugs was alcohol a lot of the time. I would tell myself sober that I would not want to do any more drugs and then as soon as I would get drunk, I would find myself calling my dealer or getting into a situation where drugs were present.
About 6 weeks ago, I decided that I would cut alcohol out of my life completely and the results have been great. I have been completely off drugs and alcohol for over 6 weeks! I feel great and I have a lot more energy, and I have successfully cut out the people in my life that no longer serve me. 
However, because I have not been drinking and using drugs, I find that I have been looking at porn a lot more than I used to. I watch it nearly every day and sometimes it is a couple hours at a time. I'm not sure if this is a bad thing, because I am single and sometimes its easier and safer for me to watch porn than to go out and find a random hook up, but it is causing me to question my actions. Is this something I should be concerned about or try to ween off of? Does anyone else find that after they quit one addiction, they find themselves trapped in another? Let me know your thoughts.
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  • Hi @samemistakes, thank you for the update and congratulations on the AWESOME progress! This is a huge accomplishment and it's great to hear you are reaping the positive benefits of clean living. 

    I personally believe alcohol is one of the biggest gateway drugs, at least it has been for me in the past. Alcohol lowered my inhibitions and made me feel fearless, and this is when I went down the darkest paths. Everyone is different and will have a different opinion but for me alcohol and drug seeking went hand in hand. I think complete abstinence is the best way to get into a place where we can trust our instincts and make the best decisions. Again, good for you for making this choice!

    Porn is a common go to I think for people giving up substances and often these activities replace those feelings of relief that our drugs of choice used to bring. Cross addiction is very real, and I think it's something to keep exploring when we give up substances.The fact that you are reflecting on this is a good sign that you're willing to do the ongoing work to make positive improvements in your life. 

    In terms of whether it's harmful or not, I think this is something only you can determine. Is it getting in the way of other things you could be doing with your time? Are you using it as an escape? Are you ignoring other responsibilities or social obligations? These are all things to consider.

    Thanks again for updating us, and may you continue to find peace in your decision to improve your life!
  • Congrats on your 6 weeks of sobriety, @samemistakes! That's fabulous!

    I think @Joe has offered up some great advice and asked some important questions. Maybe trying to cut down on the amount of time you watch porn would be a good idea. Try it and see how it goes.

    We're here to help and support you. Always remember that. 
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