Porn And Teens: How do You Handle Finding Your Teen With Porn?

With the ever increasing use of technology by our teens, we may expect that at some point they may come across porn. After all, teens talk to one another and curiosity could get the best of them. So, you caught your teen with porn? While you may be shocked, please do try to remain calm. Here are some tips on what to do next.

Even if you’ve already had a talk about viewing sexual explicit material with your teen, go ahead and have another talk with them. You want to help them understand pornography is often theatrical, it’s not real. These are paid actors and actresses and often they are acting in extreme ways. It’s wise to let your teen know that they aren’t expected to follow what they see in explicit material. 

Another concern you’ll want to express to your teen is the lack of safe sex practices in pornography. Teens should be aware that safe sex includes using birth control AND condoms to protect them from both unwanted pregnancies and sexual transmitted infections. 

Understand that no matter how much you restrict internet access and monitor your child, they are savvy enough to find it if they want to. Research suggests that just having this important conversation with them correlates to lower levels of interest in sexually explicit material.  It’s still a good idea to keep computers and television in shared family areas instead of in private areas of the house. Just as you would want your child monitored in anyone else’s house, you’ll want to monitor internet use when your teens have friends over to your house as well.

So if you catch your teen with porn, remain calm and talk to them in a calm, loving manner. Your teen needs to feel secure in the conversation, enabling them to communicate openly with you. 

Reference
Pitman, T. “Teens and Porn” Today’s Parent.(Website).August 2008.

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  • I'm really glad that my kids grew up before technology was so prevalent. With so many kids having Internet access, tablets, and smart phones these days, kids can see just about anything they could imagine with just a few clicks. It's sad, but I guess that's the world we live in now. That said, I feel for parents who have to deal with this. It can't be easy, but I think staying calm and talking to them in a loving manner--just like you would with a child you found out was using drugs--is definitely the best approach.
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