Who is important to you in your recovery?

I know for me, recovery from addiction is a big deal. I do not want to live in the bondage of addiction...not to a substance, a person, food, sex, and so on.... As we know there are so many things to become addicted to!

When I first entered the recovery world, I had a couple of key people (supports) that were so important! I don't know if I could have made it through early recovery without them!

One was my sponsor in Nar-Anon and Codependents Anonymous. She was always there for me...to listen...to understand...and even to let me go through my crap at my own pace... I look back and smile because I would call her so emotionally a wreck..and she could have been like, "Get your shit together...Geez. Grow up". But she didn't. She held space for me..encouraged me...kept me accountable to work the program... and believed in me.

I also had my sister and a best friend who were there for me. To just love me no matter what. It helped a lot!

Who are important in your recovery?  What support network are you involved in? (If any)  

do you feel like others are important to your recovery?
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  • This is a great question . I have a lot of folks that are important in my life , but I've kept the "Recovery" part largely to myself outside of this site . That's not to say that I don't tell my friends at social events that I've quit drinking , I just don't lean on anyone for assistance . And that could be a contributing factor to my recent relapse . And during that relapse , I kept my drinking entirely private . Drinking in complete shame .
    Even with my wife of 21 years , she knows when I'm sober . And she prays I stay that way . But it isn't a large part of the conversation , unless she suspects that I'm not behaving . Then she has a lot to say about it .
    ( She's a redhead ).
    But , I live in a world where I'm the primary decision maker . At work , at home , and even in my hobbies , friends look to me to take the lead . So face to face interaction on the subject of recovery is something that has alluded me . Coming here is easy though . It seems like you and @DeanD kind of run the joint , and I can just be another guy looking for answers.
    But , I do have a good friend who has been sober for some time now . I've never approached the subject with him . But have considered it . In addition to being a guy who could potentially be a mentor in sobriety , he was once a mentor in "Spirituality". I'm going to put some thought into talking to him . But I also don't want to impose on him . Any thoughts or advice ?
  • I guess my situation is a little bit different since I'm probably not technically "in recovery." I have been sober since September of 2008, but that's because I quit drinking to set an example for my son, who was in rehab for heroin addiction. That said, I'd say my wife has been the most important person to me in my sobriety. Especially since she quit drinking the same day I did. (Neither one of us were problem drinkers. We just quit because the family therapist at our son's treatment facility told us to be the change we wanted to see in our son. It was kind of an act of solidarity.)

    As far as my recovery from my son's addiction--and as a parent of someone struggling with addiction, you need to work on your own recovery, too--I would again say that my wife is my biggest support person. In addition to her, other family members have helped a lot. And Al-Anon, too.

    @TWSJ... I'm glad you think coming here is easy. That's the whole idea. Also, I think you should have a conversation with your sober friend. I doubt if you'd be imposing on him. Most people in sobriety don't mind talking about it with other people...especially friends. It could be a great connection for you. When you feel comfortable, go for it!
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