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Addicted to my Anxiety?

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Recently, I am living with somebody I love very much, and I have never felt safer or happier or more loved. My SO doesn't make me do anything I don't want to do (they are kind of a homebody, too), but, they notice how I act when I am pushed outside of my comfort zone. I've never shown anybody my feeling, or let anybody get this close and she has been encouraging me to get some professional help I know that that is the right decision, and it's not that I'm afraid of talking about my problems, I've known for a long time I get anxious and will tell my friends if I am in a social situation I am uncomfortable with. 

I think I am just more comfortable with things the way they are. I feel strange, almost itchy, when I haven't felt anxious or scared in a long time. I feel like something is creeping up on me and if I am not being anxious about it, that just means I am going to be blindsided. 

I don't know what is good for me at this point. My anxiety is holding me and my relationships back, but I am afraid of... well, everything. And I am afraid that if I am not afraid, then I will be letting my guard down. Please, what do I do?
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    dominicadominica
    @RWhite hello and welcome. i think many of us can relate to your anxiety. i have met so many people who admit that they have social anxiety...it's surprising so many have it!! now many go on anti-anxiety meds and to each their own, but i choose not to do that.

    i sometimes get out of my comfort zone, as my partner is more social than i am...but she also allows me to be me and understood from the get-go than i'm an introvert and i don't love to be out in crowds or socialize a lot...and she accepted that....at the same time, i do know sometimes she likes me to go to gatherings and community events with her, so i do...i support her in that...and sometimes i go in my own car so i can leave when i'm ready...

    read up on introverts..you may indeed simply be introverted and that's ok!!!! :) the world needs introverts.  

    counseling may help...if you've got something underlying the anxiety...you can work through it. that's what professionals can help us with...i think therapy rocks...if you can find a good therapist (who just doesn't push meds on you)

    i had a self-esteem issue for a while and that kept me from venturing out...but i've worked on that...a self-love issue. i DO have a lot to offer people...and my presence DOES matter :) even if it is just to smile and listen to others speak.

    i hope this helps. others will chime in...

    glad you are here!
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    SeraphineSeraphine
    Hi there!  I totally get how you feel... I have anxiety issues as well, and there are times I also feel like I am afraid of everything and nothing in specific.  I sometimes wake up feeling plain scared, not knowing why... sometimes even after a seemingly calm and ok day.  

    I don't have much of an advice, but I cal tell you what has worked for me :)  For me keeping a diary has helped me a lot, I talk about my frustrations, fears and everything else.  Plain venting, no censorship.  I end up feeling so well. 

    Have you thought about searching for professional help?  I'm talking about therapy, not a psychiatrist... I don't believe their drugs solve a thing. 
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    erook7878erook7878
    Whenever you feel a certain way for a long time, that becomes the norm. It becomes the baseline and anything outside of that will make you uncomfortable. It is a very weird thing, but I suppose trying to remove yourself from the anxiety for as long as possible to readjust the baseline.
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    TataTata
    I think it's worth a shot. It won't take too much time or effort to try it out at least once and if it turns out to be not to your liking then you can revert back to your current state without much change if at all. I understand how difficult it is to leave your comfort zone though but I found that as long as I don't think too much about each and every possibility especially long term ones that probably won't happen or matter anyway then I can dive into it much easier.
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    TataTata
    I think it's worth a shot. It won't take too much time or effort to try it out at least once and if it turns out to be not to your liking then you can revert back to your current state without much change if at all. I understand how difficult it is to leave your comfort zone though but I found that as long as I don't think too much about each and every possibility especially long term ones that probably won't happen or matter anyway then I can dive into it much easier.
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    rz3300rz3300
    Afraid of being not afraid huh....I guess that sounds a little familiar.  I am sure that we all have some issues like this, and I would say that the best thing to do is whatever keeps you healthy and strong.  I am not sure what the answer is, but it seems like it is just your personality, and that is just fine.
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    yeppeoyeppeo
    I can identify with this and that's one of the reasons that make me hide instead of getting help to my problem. I think you're afraid of change, since it means that you'll be going through the unknown and it will make you feel lost. But if you never make that change you'll be stuck in that anxiety forever (I should follow my advice too).
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